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“For you that are parents, or to whom the education of children is comitted, I beseech you mind the duty which lies on you. … For to what purpose do we desire them before we have them, rejoice in them when we have them, value them so highly, sympathize with them so tenderly, grieve for their death so excessively, if in the meantime no care be taken what shall become of them to eternity? … If you neglect to instruct them in the way of holiness, will the devil neglect to instruct them in the way of wickedness? No, no, if you will not teach them to pray, he will teach them to curse, swear and lie. If ground be uncultivated, weeds will spring up.â€

~ John Flavel

I remember back in the early days of my marriage and motherhood.  We had many young ones very close together.  (we still do)  Our older children are closer in age though than our younger ones.  I remember how busy I was then and how many people when they should have been encouraging a young mother of many instead found it their place to discourage.  I remember very well doing the math and realizing that one day I would have five teen age children at the same time.  So many tried to discourage me by saying things like how they felt so sorry for me, how they were glad they were not me, how they would shoot themselves rather than being in my place, how I would regret having these children, and the open ended “just wait until” comments.

Thankfully, I did not let those comments discourage me.  In fact, I often did and still do feel sorry for those people who did not realize the blessing of children and young adults.  I remember speaking with my husband and saying how we knew it would be different.  Yes, it doesn’t matter how well you parent, you can still have a wayward child.  But, when you are raising your children for the glory of God and being dependent upon him and fully engaged in prayer for your children trusting in the promises of God, there is hope and confidence in who those children will grow to become.

I used to say to myself that I would wait and see when the day came whether those discouragements were valid.  One amazing thing I have discovered in this journey of parenthood is this, if you see your children as blessings that is what they end up being.

Well, we are in the midst of birthday season and I am now the mother of five teen age children and I can easily without reservation say that they are each a blessing!  Not only a blessing but a tremendous blessing!  They do not give me heartache as the naysayers said they would.  I am honored to be their mother!  I am honored that the Lord blessed me with them!  My life is fuller and richer because of them!

Having five teens is not the disaster so many told me it would be.  It is not full of heart ache and grief as many warned.  I still have my hair and it is not white!  I am blessed beyond measure!

So to all those naysayers, I hope you can see that children and young adults truly are a treasure, a blessing, and a gift of the Lord!

Do you ever just feel like a total failure? There are rarely days when I feel that all has gone perfectly, in fact, I can’t even remember the last time that happened. The chief end of man is to glorify God and enjoy him forever. My calling in this life is to be a wife and a mother. I am to glorify God through those things yet often times I seem to fail miserably! This calling in my opinion is one of the greatest in life because it holds such eternal consequences!

Other people will see accomplishment and evidence of great work in this area of my life but often times I only see my failings. I know how often we skip our family devotionals. I know how often I loose my temper. I know how often I lack compassion. I know how neglected my Bible reading can be. I know how lacking my prayer life can be at times. I know the things that go through my mind and that occupy my thoughts that are not glorifying or edifying. These are things that others do not see.

I truly feel as if I fail more than I succeed! Yet, I look at my family, I look at my children, I listen to the comments and encouragement of others. I see the hand of God at work! When I receive praise I am keenly aware of the fact that any good is not because of me but in spite of me. I work hard, often not hard enough but it is not my work that accomplishes anything praise worthy. It is the Lord’s work. It is only by his hand, grace, mercy, instruction, and power. It is God who deserves the praise!

I am encouraged by these words:

I often pray that God would do amazing things with our family and these children that he has entrusted to us. That he will do a mighty work in their lives. That they would bring honor and praise to his name. That the Lord would be glorified in their lives. That the Lord would grant me the wisdom, dedication, love, and ability to do all that he has called me to in raising these arrows.  I ask that if anyone is ever led to pray for me that these are things that are lifted up before the Lord on my behalf.

I wish for other mothers to be encouraged to not be discouraged in the daunting yet indescribably rewarding task of raising children for the glory of God!  Remember it is not all dependent upon you.  God will accomplish his purposes.  Just keep praying, keep striving, continue in love and obedience.

Let me leave you with this benediction and may you be encouraged just as these words encourage me:

And remember, be a light to your children and God will do the rest.

We have never really had a problem in our family with jealousy when a new baby arrives. I am thankful for that. Usually we just notice when the children (usually the one who used to be the baby) is needing a little extra cuddles. If we pay attention and meet that need then there is never a problem with jealousy.

My two year old has a new phrase that she uses to let me know she needs some lovin’. She says, “Mommy, I need you,” and she uses the best whiny voice you can imagine. So I pick her us and we cuddle and she is happy again.

Well, this morning she came to me with her, “Mommy, I need you,” cry. I picked her up and she was quiet. Next thing you know she is pulling my shirt out and looking down it! I look at her and say, “Um, what are you doing? Do you need to nurse?” Usually when this happens she smiles and says no and runs off to play. Well, this morning she looks at me with the saddest eyes you have ever seen and says, “Uh huh!” (meaning YES!)

Shocked I asked her again and received the same reply!

I told her I didn’t really think she needed that but that she just needed a hug. She put her arms out and gave a big hug! Then she looks at me and says, “Mommy, I need some juice!” LOL

Maybe she was thirsty after all!!!! HaHa!!

What an encouraging verse and one with a promise. This is something that I have been in need of lately. I have been growing weary. There are just those days that are harder than others and it is easy to loose focus. Being a mom is a tough job and one with so many responsibilities and eternal consequences. There are the days when the children don’t listen and I begin to feel that if I were to disappear no one would even notice. Then a little one will come and give me a hug and I remember that I am here for a purpose. I have simply grown weary.

There are days like this past week when I clean and clean and clean. Even though I removed two big boxes of stuff to throw out and seven trash bags full of stuff to donate I feel as if the house is a wreck and you do not even notice any progress. Rather than seeing the progress amongst the mess I have grown weary.

Mountain climbing is fun and in fact it is one of my favorite activities but for some reason Mount Washmore wearies me more than any other.

When the children continue to be snippy and not on their best behavior if I become discouraged then I begin to feel like a total failure in my parenting abilities. This is the worse. If I grow weary then I begin to focus on myself and what I have or have not accomplished. I should be remembering that it is God alone who can change their hearts.

There are many responsibilities and many things that I need to do to be a good parent but most importantly my job is to rely on the Lord for each and every aspect of being a parent. I am to rely on the Lord for the grace and wisdom to raise these children. I am to rely on the Lord for the outcome. After all, it is the Lord who works in their lives and changes hearts, attitudes, minds, and habits. I am simply one vessel he uses to do accomplish his plans for their lives. When I remember that I am to do all I can but God is the one who is doing the real work it becomes easier and easier to not grow weary. I simply need to be obedient, to continue to do good, and to keep my focus where it belongs. It becomes so much easier to not grow weary.

Take the encouragement this promise offers. In due season we will reap and it will make the difficult days so worth it. Just like in giving birth, the pain seems unbearable but the reward is so worth it!

Praise be to God that he allows us mothers to work so hard and to reap even more abundantly!

I am still not completely sold on the whole cloth diapering idea.  I love the idea and it isn’t really that much more to do but I am still not sure I want the bulk or if I am ready to give up the convenience of disposable. I do think however that if I were to jump in and go all cloth I would prefer the sample that was sent to me over the ones I am borrowing.  The ones I am borrowing are indeed easier than what I grew up with but the sample product I received seems a better fit for us.

The company that sent me the sample is The Willow Store.  You will find the diapering system listed under Sprout Change.  Here is a little background on the Sprout Change system taken from their website.

The shell of the diaper (to replace the traditional plastic pants) are really cute.  They come in several colors and are reversible so you get two colors in one.  This is the one I have.

They are a one size fits all.  The website says that they will fit from 5-40 pounds.  I agree with this assessment.  My newborn can wear them and so can my two year old.  There are snaps on each side. You simply unsnap and adjust the elastic.  It is simple enough that you can resize it in seconds while your baby is wearing it.  They even have a little video on their website if you need help.

The shells can also be reused until soiled.  I didn’t have any problem with leakage.  The shells are also breathable to help fight against diaper rash.

They have different insert options or you could even use the diapers you have on hand.  The insert they sent to me was a super saver insert.  I LOVE the insert!  It is so soft!!  Even after several washes it maintained that ultra soft feel!  These will also fit from baby to toddler.  You simply fold down the extra in the front or back.  They are a one piece retangular shaped insert. I also liked them because there was no trying to stuff the diaper in the shell.

It helped cut down on the bulkiness which is one of my major dislikes concerning cloth diapers. These diapers are much trimmer than others I have tried.  This insert is also their most cost effective option.  Here is a look at the shell with the super saver insert.

Washing is easy too.  Machine wash warm, extra rinse, and tumble dry.  It doesn’t get any easier than that!

If I were to decide (still undecided as of now) to go cloth for diapering I think I would use the Sprout Change system.  As I was looking through their website they also carry training pants.  They say that their training pants can also be used as an all in one diaper.  There are for children who weigh a little more so it would not work for me right now but I do like the idea of an all in one diaper.  That just seems more convenient to me.  I may have to order one and try it out.  Maybe I will use them for my two year as she will be ready to train soon.

Now as far as affordability goes.  I have not really looked around much so I do not know how it compares in regard to other cloth diapering systems but it seems to me to be an affordable investment.  The Willow Store offers diaper packages and starter kits to make things even more affordable.  Of course, your savings would depend on what exactly you purchased.  If you were to purchase the system I have shown here your cost would be  a couple of hundred dollars verses a couple of thousand dollars for disposable.  Not bad at all!

I am not sure yet if I will ever make a complete change away from disposable but I could see myself making a partial change.  Maybe while we are around the house and only use disposable while we are out.  I will have to continue to try them out and who knows maybe as I do it will become a more permanent part of our life.  I love the idea of cloth diapering and the evolution of cloth diapers over the years are making it a more appealing choice. Sprout Change will be the store I order from if we do indeed decide to move more and more toward cloth.