Especially in election years, the following cliché is often trotted around in its many forms:
“If you don’t have a vagina, don’t tell someone else what to do with theirs.”
While I absolutely agree with this statement’s underlying principles, as I’m a huge fan of “personal liberty” in most of its forms, I think the cliché is so flawed, it might actually hurt the argument it’s trying to win.
For example, take the following form of the cliché that follows the same approach:
“If you don’t have children, don’t tell someone else how to raise theirs.”
This might sound reasonable at first, but let me elaborate it to make it clearer:
“Just because one does not have children, they couldn’t possibly–shouldn’t ever–be able to describe what child abuse is, and try to prevent others from committing it.”
If you agree with the very last statement, you’re wrong and are no longer intellectually qualified to discuss this matter. You can stop reading now, thanks for trying, at least.
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Often, that’s how I feel when folks use the “if you have no vagina, you have no basis to prevent others from using theirs however they see fit” argument. It makes for a good sound bite, but it’s wrong, and it’s hard to actually win an argument when you’re actually wrong.
Maybe you still disagree. That’s fine. Assume for a moment that you’re actually right, and as a consequence, men become totally silent on the matter of women’s health. Are you trying to really convince me that there aren’t women out there who are pro-life or anti-abortion? Just because they have the plumbing, does that give them the right to tell other women what to do with theirs? Does it make them right? Should women listen to them?
Of course not. What plumbing you have is not what qualifies you as having the “right” to tell someone what to do with theirs.
We mutually agree on rules and establish laws in order to maintain order. Some folks try to abuse the system to enforce their personal sense of ethics and morality, and that’s unfortunate.
In America, we have rules and laws around rape. “If you don’t have a penis, don’t tell me what to do with mine” is clearly a ridiculous defense of rape, but “if you don’t have a vagina, don’t tell me what to do with mine” isn’t a ridiculous defense of abortion? See what I did there?
If you want to argue in favor of personal liberty, and I think every person who enjoys any sense of freedom should do so, if you want to ever win, you must stop arguing using a framework that can never win–one that’s clearly flawed and wrong.











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